Hello, and welcome to my blog, “Thoughts from the Third Stall.”
You might be wondering how I came up with the name, so let me explain.
You’re at work, having a decent day, when your boss asks you to step into his or her office. Your stomach immediately starts doing flips. Your heart starts racing a little. You start replaying the last 24 hours in your head wondering what you did, what you said, who you did or said it to, and what could this be about.
You step into the office and the boss asks you to shut the door. Stomach flips turn into major acrobatics and your heart is pounding out of your chest. Your boss then goes on a 15 minute rant (which you disagree with) about your performance on a specific project or “slaps your hand” for sending an email that sounded “too harsh.” You leave the office feeling either pissed off or embarrassed…sometimes both.
And then it starts to happen. You realize you’re about to have a similar meltdown to the one your 3-year-old had last weekend at the mall. The kind where you start sobbing, then get angry at yourself for crying at work, so you sob some more.
You certainly aren’t about to break down at your desk. So, where do you head?
If you’re like most women (and probably some men) you head for the restroom, lock yourself in a stall, and have a seat.
I’ve found myself in the third stall of many a work bathroom. Sometimes I’ve been in there crying. Sometimes I’m texting my sister, mom and/or best friend giving them a play-by-play of the ridiculous conversation I just had. Most of the time it has been a lot of both.
The last time I found myself in this situation, I decided I’d had enough. It was time to start reevaluating my life and my career, and finding ways to help others (more on that in future posts). Plus, like most of us younger than 40, we feel like we have a lot to say and like everyone in the world will want to hear it. (Hopefully, this is at least true in my case.)
So that brings us here, to “Thoughts from the Third Stall.”
I’ve had an interesting career (visit me on LinkedIn), and I’ve learned a lot from each organization (public and private) that I’ve worked in. My goal is to share what I’ve learned in the hopes that it will make your career path (and life) a bit easier. I’d also like to keep you out of the third stall as much as possible.